It has been a pleasant, easygoing, healthy relationship. I've had moments where I've wondered if my feelings were reciprocated the same way, whether this is a short-term relationship or has staying power, whether we're deeply compatible or not.
She's fiercely independent, which helps me not feel trapped. However, she's now beginning to feel a strong pull to re-evaluate her life direction. She's still creative and independent, but she just became an aunt, and she's feeling the pull to create family, however that looks for her.
We're not looking to move in together any time soon, but I am at the point where I'm about ready to (casually) introduce her to my daughter. I'm wondering if someone can double check my synastry analysis below--especially with a view to pointing out any red flags regarding my daughter's well-being that I may have missed.
A (my girlfriend): May 6, 1991, 5:53PM, Portland, OR
B (my daughter): March 15, 2013, 5:56PM, Portland OR
A Sun conjuncts B Moon (1 degree) – very favorable
A Moon squares B Moon (1 degree) – feel sympatico
A Venus squares B Sun (3 degrees) – dear friendship
A Moon opposite B Pluto (4 degrees) - "moth to the flame" sadism/masochism
A Sun opposite B Saturn (5 degrees) - painful relationship, hard to let go
A Moon square B Saturn (5 degrees)
A Venus square B Mars (5 degrees)
B Moon trine A Uranus (1 degree) – not boring!
B Moon trine A Neptune (2 degrees) – easy empathy
The first thing that I notice are the Sun-Moon and Moon-Moon aspects. The two of them appear to be even more compatible than me!
All in all, these seem pretty positive to me--except for the wide Sun-Saturn and Moon-Pluto aspects, which are a bit troubling, even though they are wide.
B transits to A
Uranus sextile Saturn – a struggle between stability and change
I only see one transit here: Uranus-Saturn.
I see that in general she's grappling with issues about artistic independence vs. increased stability. I'm not sure whether this is a hit-and-run experiment where she's considering shouldering life responsibilities--although I'm not really asking her to be a step-mom here.Established patterns are challenged. A tug-of-war arises in you over (a) clinging to familiar surroundings and ways of doing things, and (b) a need for change, freedom, and establishing new life trends. Initially this demand for change may seem to come from your environment. A little self-examination, however, will show you this need to alter your life stemming from some dissatisfaction within yourself, where you have outgrown current circumstances. At its worst, this tense time threatens security, evoking stubbornness and uncooperative behavior. Experienced consciously, however, it loosens rigid concepts, freeing you from limiting attitudes and circumstances. A willing acceptance of new ways now insures far greater security and stability later.
IN BRIEF: Stability vs. change. Current patterns are challenged, maybe security threatened. Tension. Either shaking material foundation and personal rigidities; or relaxing, releasing rigid concepts and freely accepting growth. Autonomous, uncooperative.
A transits to B
Uranus trine Moon – shift in emotional relationships, emotionally liberating
Saturn sextile Uranus – independence and rebellion
Jupiter trine Uranus – increased originality and confidence
Venus square Sun – affectionate close relationship
Moon sextile Mars – touchiness
Sun conjunct Moon – special attention from someone important
On B's side, I also see that a Uranus transit is the first aspect.
A Jupiter trines B Mars (3 degrees) – good mentor
A Sun trine B Pluto (5 degrees)
B Venus trine A Mars (3 degrees)
B Moon sextile A Mars (4 degrees)
A Venus trine A Neptune (5 degrees)
B Venus trine A Pluto (3 degrees)
A Jupiter sextile A Jupiter (3 degrees)
These all seem pretty unhealthy and negative to me. But in the context, I guess I would downplay them as less important variables?
I find all of this a bit confusing and contradictory.
The two of them have very positive luminary aspects, so my underlying assumption is that this is a healthy connection.
I see themes of independence, sexual and emotional awakening, my daughter is 5, and in a few years, she will be experiencing puberty, and in need of positive women role models. Her mom is a sweet and nice person, but has over the last decade become near asexual in her self-expression. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is a fiery burlesque dancer. So I can imagine that her mere presence in my daughter's life would probably open her eyes to a different way of relating to the world. Part of me worries about this, the other part says that it's important to have a fearless, sex-positive, rebellious female role model in her life, even if it's somewhat peripherally.
Obviously the things to avoid are (1) introducing unhealthy relationships into my daughter's life and (2) introducing deep relationships quickly, only to have the person depart abruptly. My antidote to (2) is to move slowly, and not allow deeply entwined commitments to form between my daughter and a romantic partners. In three years' time, she has met a couple of my partners once or twice for casual picnic sort of things. Last year, I introduced her to my last girlfriend, and our kids bonded during a play date. In retrospect I moved too quickly, and regret it, though I don't think any lasting harm occurred (we didn't move in or anything, but they spent 1-2 days a week together for a few months before we broke up, and have seen each other 2-3 times since then).