I'm a strongly Lunar person like you are, Jim, though not through angularity but rather intensity of aspects. Like you describe, I also have some difficulty distinguishing between Moon and Mercury in daily life.
Identify this specified need in yourself. Recognize that you have it. Reflect on how it manifests in you at a simple, basic level, and then as secondary motivations and behaviors that arise from the simpler ones.
How strong is this need in you compared to other needs?
Like in your experience, I have trouble relating to Moon in terms of the word "need," because it operates so
automatically."The
instinctual urge, if I can rephrase it, to adapt to my social environment is incredibly strong. In situations where I can't quickly figure out how "people are supposed to act," I feel intensely anxious. I have always wrestled with social anxiety, but I think a large portion of what underlies it is a concern about being able to detect this and adapt to fit it. (Given Moon's aspects, and my Sun sign, there are more complications sitting on top of this, but I think one of the core pillars of it is just a need to feel like I have identified and implemented it quickly in any social situation, purely for its own sake.)
Even as a teenager I recognized just how rapidly, automatically, and constantly I was doing this. I have had a few mini-crises of identity because my personal expression morphs so automatically based on who I am interacting with.
As far as neuroplasticity, or rather, the psychological equivalent - I find that I rapidly adjust to the tone and intention of a piece of writing or media. This is so automatic and powerful that I sometimes have fears that I can accidentally end up indoctrinating or brainwashing myself by not being careful in what media I consume.
Regarding expressing instincts... these actually take a serious back seat to matters of social acceptance for me. I have a longstanding difficulty in just expressing benign instinctual urges (changing my seat, adjusting something in the environment, taking a break to use the bathroom) if these are even slightly socially disruptive, leading me to feel unnecessarily uncomfortable. I'm not surprised that this is the case.
Compared to its strength in other people?
Like you, I'm unsure to what degree this type of thing is unique to me as a phenomenon, and to what degree I am just more aware of it than others (or even if I am). I tend to think that I am more aware of it than others are, but I don't have much proof of that.
How has it expressed itself in you at various stages of your life (from earliest memories through later life stages)?
As a child, I got absolutely and totally absorbed in whatever I was doing; it was my entire experience during and even after the activity. I was very resistant to changing the topic of my focus due to being so absorbed in it, and would fight having to re-adapt to something else.
When I was a pre-teen and a teenager, I was aware of this automatic social and psychological adaptation (and anxiety around it) taking place, but did not have much intellectual or emotional clarity about it.
As an adult, I have actually needed to consciously remind myself to
indulge this
appetite to adapt myself to new contexts (at the very least, through new and engaging media I can get absorbed in). I automatically adapt when actually in it, but I tend to put off satisfying the need for it. This is partially a sublimation of my childhood instinctual resistance to changing contexts - I know I need to give this part of myself more expression, but, ah, I'll get to it later... or tomorrow...
Video games are a very relevant outlet for me for expressing this urge to adapt. I am generally very competent at many different genres, and that mostly comes from rapidly "understanding what is expected" and responding to it.
This exact same mechanism has tended to make me very good at taking standardized tests. I think that I score higher on them than I would "otherwise" just because I feel like I can sense what the correct headspace and context is, and I can get into it.
Have you been able to satisfy this need? Or has it gone largely unsatisfied?
I feel both that I have been able to largely satisfy this need, and also that it is just so
needy that I could always use more. "Unsatisfied" is not accurate, though.
What are the worst things in your personality and behavior that arise from this need (and from succeeding or failing at satisfying it)?
I can get totally lost in "adapting" to projections about the psychological and social environment that I am in, rather than adapting to the actual environment. This leads to incongruence between my current state and the environment I'm actually in. This is perhaps best seen as a "failure at satisfying" the need.
I can also be far too agreeable with others, since I adapt so thoroughly to our "shared context" in a social situation that I lose track of the concept that - wow, I actually don't really want X, I only thought I did since that was the group's headspace. (Part of this is acceptance-related, but part of it is even more automatic and neutral than that. Even if others in the group repeatedly offer me space to dissent, I just lose the ability to detect that I even do, or would, dissent.) This is definitely "succeeding at satisfying" the need.
What are the best things?
My life purpose centers around knowing, recognizing, relaying, and completing the patterns of the universe. My Moon is immensely important in this endeavor - the automatic adaptation to some context (when consciously chosen) enables all of my other best traits to flourish with little energy expenditure: a quick and capable mind that has the benefit of already "being in the headspace" once it comes online, much energy and passion that can be directed with instinct rather than constant calculation, the instinct to teach others and help bring them into shared understanding, and so on.
It also helps me teach others much more effectively - when I can adapt to what they're seeing and expressing, I can better phrase things so they can better receive them.
Also, frankly, it makes me able to make friends more easily - I adapt very quickly to other people.
As far as possible, answer these questions about other people you know well. For this week or longer, ...
I will come back to this part. I haven't had the bandwidth to participate in the ongoing witnessing/social component of these meditations, but I want to do it eventually.