Thanks for the feedback, Derek. I'll make some responses below but, mostly, I'm happy this may have helped him, and that it also represented Sidereal astrology well.
I want to point out, as an educational point, that I've always said astrology was simple (at least conceptually, and usually in practice) it you first filter the very most important
few items from a chart to build a core idea about the native. Everything I wrote was based on knowing he had Cancer-Sagittarius luminaries, Moon and Jupiter (plus Uranus) foreground - the Jupiter-Uranus square standing out - and some zany Mercury aspects. The angular planets and luminary signs easily collapsed into "Moon + Jupiter" personality style, especially in sharp contrast to the Saturn personality style (with Saturn immediately background; I could have added background Sun, but that wouldn't have said much you hadn't already said, or that wasn't inherent in the Moon/Cancer temperament). Just a few things, really...
DDonovanKinsolving wrote: Tue Jul 11, 2017 3:08 am
1. It's interesting that he can't trust external measurement-assessments because, for the most part, his psyche responds primarily to the response he gets from other people.
[True. Needs real-time feedback. Doesn’t trust tests because he believes that the tests give general feedback without having individual specifics. Thinks they lack context especially when people are involved in the question, to be able to answer. Tests answers can change depending on current state of emotions.]
Ah, I hadn't even realized how precisely I'd said it: He needs the direct response from others. This tells me something about how his mind works. He primarily gets
empathic communication. It may even be (this is true of some Mercury-Pluto and even Mercury-Uranus types) that he has a hard time framing meaning inside of a flatly written communication unless there is someone actually present from whom he can empathically extract the
meaning (emotional meaning, mostly) that he should attribute to the words. His brain doesn't
necessarily assign meaning to words out of context (that's his Cancerian
context need) - to some extent, they're just words. This cascades into several other interesting directions that, if I were a cognitive therapist seeing him, I'd definitely explore over time just to unlock practical insight; but he can probably run with that seed idea himself.
Something that might be useful to him - and he may already be doing - is getting that one clear fact, that
meaning is not inherent in any fact.
Meaning is always added by each of us after the fact. And the situations in which he assigns meaning are different than when/how others do it. And he doesn't feel he has a whole communication based on words, but only when he has some other channel (empathy, usually) to know what those words emotionally
mean to the communicator.
But I digress from the astrology...
2. Cancers often are "lost" in the same way. [Ajax asks: “Same way as what?”]
I meant: In the way you had already described him as being lost. Especially with a background Sun, this probably takes the form of not feeling compelled, from the inside out, by a driving sense of innate purpose and direction. Lack of an irrepressible direction or quest, plus extreme adaptability, often has Cancers pick up many things and feel less focused, to start with great promise and then end up going nowhere - because they never exactly pick a primary road. That he has a Spoke Moon fuels this a bit.
Or, if that's not exactly right, then it's something similar; but that's the general thing that was in the back of my mind.
Myth: Fears failure on first attempt. Extended practice is OK, but the first real-world effort must be perfect and go exactly as planned. Expects exaggeratedly positive results. His concern: He perceives his passion is public speaking, but is not confident in his level of knowledge about any one topic to do so; that he doesn’t have a unique contribution to make.]
Awesome concrete details! Yes, I've this sort of thing in other Cancers. Please tell him from me - someone regarded generally as a good-to-great extemporaneous speaker that you have to fall on your face a whole lot before you get that good. Unless someone has a rare, overwhelming genius for it, the only two real paths are to so rigidly follow a formula that one is praised for sense of form, and the form carries the day - or to learn to trust one's independent instincts, and that takes a LOT of practice and,
especially, a lot of failure. Failure is the instructor. (I mean small failures, not utter failures <g>.)
Speech classes, if well taught, give this experience and critique. If well taught, one expects and wants to have one's flaws disclosed. Even better, he may want to take a class in improvisation or even (an enormous growth exercise!) in stand-up comedy. There is nothing that matures you as a comfortable improvisational speaker like working hard to get people to laugh at you for the things you secretly fear people are laughing at you about.
6. So... investigative and, especially, creative. Not so good about following rules or being told how to think. Needs to get practical in the sense of admitting a picture of himself that isn't just in his imagination.
I realized, on rereading this today, that I wasn't clear enough that the first two sentences are description and the third one is prescription.
[For the third sentence, Ajax doesn’t understand the meaning of this. How can he begin distinguishing between this imagined self and his real self? Could it be this: He thinks he may have programmed himself to act like a narcissist because he thinks that’s how to display confidence. My note: A lot of this has been modeled on popularized TZ Leo interpretations.]
Something like that. Also, the work you said he is already doing probably will help with this. It's harder to get a Rim-Spoke to respond foremost to interior messages instead of the outermost, but he has the sensitivity to help. One other thing that might help is for him to drill in concentration. There are numerous concentration excercises, there are well-known yoga methods, and it is something he lacks. If he had the ability to place his attention where he wants, and then to hold it there for prolonged periods of time, many helpful things would come naturally to him. (I could recommend some basic things, but he may already have that resource, or may want to find them on his own.)
[Ajax is engaged in a particular self-improvement program which emphasizes practical procedures and (important to him) actual practices or things to do. Ajax says: “On the spot again.” He is already aligned with this recommendation. Ajax asks: “Can you recommend some reframing techniques or resources to help me along with this?”]
I think he should get these from the source he's already selected to help him through this process.