Solunars by Aldebaran Sidereal Academy

Avshalom Binyamin wrote: Thu Oct 11, 2018 11:22 am I posted this one because it has some interesting themes for me.

It's interesting that, after a Venus-Pluto year, and entering a year with more Saturn, my thoughts have turned toward ideas of commitment and *gasp* monogamy. On my birthday, this person texted me, and ended up asking me out on a date.

Obviously, in spite of the positive romantic energy, having my Sun and Moon square to someone else's Saturn-Neptune conjunction isn't a recipe for personal fulfillment.

I wondered why lately I keep seeing Saturn aspects showing up in synastry for potential romantic partners. It seemed contradictory. Aspect descriptions says something like, "though particularly common among marriage partners, this interchange is usually disappointing"

Other astrology sites seem to have a less negative view of Saturn aspects in synastry. They talk about it in terms of commitment and security, but I think they overlook the fact that so many marriages are unhappy and end in divorce.

Around 7/8 years ago, at the end of my Saturn return, I began to buck the ideas of self-sacrificing commitment, and started coming out of my shell. (I also took on new responsibilities, included becoming a dad). But I also lost out on some things, by becoming emotionally un-available for a while. Now that I'm having a Saturn-Saturn square, I'm re-evaluating some of that.

I've been trying to understand what different Saturn aspects in synastry mean, and how they manifest.

Saturn is about our own mortality and insignificance in the face of time. Knowledge of this causes us to act more cautiously, and try to create security to protect against this reality.

When Saturn aspects a partner's planet, it means that something about our partner's planet triggers a sense of insecurity in us. Jealousy and control are two manifestations of insecurity.

I had Saturn square my last girlfriend's Venus. And though I'm not generally a jealous person, I did feel twinge of jealousy over her socializing and romantic activities. (We had a monogamish/open relationship, and she is an exotic dancer). I actually craved monogamy with her, and she would have been inclined to accept it, had I requested it. But my Jupiter was more closely square her Venus, and I didn't want to limit her Venus expression in that way. The Venus-Saturn aspect was kind of a recipe for unhappiness in that area.

With the person in the original post of this thread, there is definitely a temptation to sacrifice myself to someone I love. My Sun and Moon are *almost* willing to be limited, for the sake of love.

But the fact is that a Saturn-Neptune conjunction is more than just Saturn. It represents unyielding idealism, and is a recipe for anxiety. Combine that in a person who has angular Sun, and I can see that the fact that my Sun and Moon connect with this aspect instead of their Sun and/or Moon, means that I would be sacrificing my true self to someone's neurosis. No thank you.