Solunars by Aldebaran Sidereal Academy

Jupiter Sets At Dawn wrote:Birth data?

Jim Eshelman wrote:Yeah, I thought your data was still posted here somewhere, but I don't see it, so...

As a Virgo, I have a lot of Cancers around me - friends, not lovers. When I've thought about it, I thought there was something to do with my own angular Moon, something to do with their tendency to be good friends in general. All Cancer Suns or Moons in my romantic history were very flitting (and, I just realized, all but one was an encounter, or series of encounters, while travelling). I don't mean they were trivial - three, though extremely brief, rank as distinctly non-trivial. But they were all very flitting, and all but one was while travelling.

jamescondor wrote:I can see how Cancer sun is flitting in how they move around in conversation topic to topic without a seemingly general purpose and physically they seem to want to escape or move around. Of course, this probably depends on foreground planets and moon sign too. Maybe they can't wait to get back home. I think they are hypersensitive. I think their mental imagery is most responsible for what seems like lying. Anyone can lie, some do it intentionally, some unconsciously like a habit. They might exaggerate to seem they are worthy of being someone. They make good friends in that they actually want to make a true connection with you. They want to find common ground. They want to laugh while sharing basic human experience.
My Cancer friends or acquaintances-one was my childhood neighbor, another I just met a couple years back. I don't know of any more. I dated a girl in high school Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon. Not sure of any others. I really haven't met many for certain. None of my known close relatives, beside my mom brother, was a Cancer.

Jim Eshelman wrote:

jamescondor wrote:I can see how Cancer sun is flitting in how they move around in conversation topic to topic without a seemingly general purpose and physically they seem to want to escape or move around.

Not my experience. They are some of the most purposeful people I know, especially in conversation. They are among the last people I would call flitting.

Most of what you mention, in fact (I don't want to go item by item) sounds more like Tropical Cancer, i.e., it's a much closer fit to Sidereal Gemini.

jamescondor wrote:One of the Cancer suns I know has unaspected sun and Gemini moon. Jim, in your post right above mine, you said Cancers are flitting. I was just agreeing with you.

Jim Eshelman wrote:I said the relationship was flitting.

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:October 8, 1980, 12:00 Noon, El Cajon, CA.

Jupiter Sets At Dawn wrote:Were you born at noon, or do you not know the time?

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:More generally, I'm in a life place where I'm not seeking out a serious domestic situation. I'm not clingy, I don't get jealous, I like LOTS of space, I'm recently divorced, I have a small kid who is my focus, and I have so far found marriage/monogamy miserable. I'm 100% honest and up-front with women about this, and they say they totally agree, but then they later get mad at me and accuse me of being really cold/distant. I feel affectionate towards people, but I don't need to see a person every day, week, or even month to feel just as warm towards them. But this seems to make some people mad/disappointed in me.

I'm not sure how much of that is my character vs my current circumstances, me needing to get more discriminating at figuring out bad matches, or a pathological thing I need to work on.

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:

Jupiter Sets At Dawn wrote:Were you born at noon, or do you not know the time?

I was born at noon.

Danica wrote:Transiting Pluto currently squares your natal Sun, and transiting Uranus is in oppos. to your natal Pluto (I don't have ephemeris nor Solar Fire at hand, so can't pull out the starting and ending dates for those transits; but they are long-term, i.e. marking a period of couple of years) - look it up in Transits section here.

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:

Danica wrote:Transiting Pluto currently squares your natal Sun, and transiting Uranus is in oppos. to your natal Pluto (I don't have ephemeris nor Solar Fire at hand, so can't pull out the starting and ending dates for those transits; but they are long-term, i.e. marking a period of couple of years) - look it up in Transits section here.

Well, that certainly fits.

Thank you!

jamescondor wrote:Look up codependency in relation to woman saying they're cool with you needing space

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:

jamescondor wrote:Look up codependency in relation to woman saying they're cool with you needing space

Yes indeed. It's one of the things I'm currently working on in life (it takes two to be codependent), which explains part of my unwillingness to enter into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.

Jim Eshelman wrote:

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:

jamescondor wrote:Look up codependency in relation to woman saying they're cool with you needing space

Yes indeed. It's one of the things I'm currently working on in life (it takes two to be codependent), which explains part of my unwillingness to enter into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.

One of the things I remembered, and hadn't gotten around to saying, is that there are factors in your chart that resemble Cancer - not quite the same thing, but resemble. Of course, the most direct is your foreground Moon; but, even stronger, is your exactly rising Neptune. Neptune and Moon have much the same traits sometimes (Gauquelin studies of traits astrologers most commonly attribute to Neptune produced angular excesses with Moon, not Neptune).

So, this might be indeed a case of finding the best collaborator for shared growth opportunities.

Avshalom Binyamin wrote:

Jim Eshelman wrote:So, this might be indeed a case of finding the best collaborator for shared growth opportunities.

If you could stop nudging me toward growth/uncomfortable truth that would be more.. comfortable.

(Kidding. As usual, thank you for the insight)